Thursday, March 31, 2011
Rachel's Song
Joseph
Joseph is at a really fun age right now. He is not so much of a terror anymore. He still gets into things. He still pulls the books off from the shelf, and he still occasionally finds his way into the toilet. But the good is now out weighing the bad. Joseph is a little joker. He loves to laugh, and laugh , and laugh. I will fake laugh and that will sending him rolling on the floor laughing and laughing. Oh, what a cutie!
Joseph always says, "thank", when you give him something that he wants. He also says sorry when I get after him for making a mess. That just melts my heart. How can I be mad at him then?
Joseph loves books. I think that is why he dumps them off the shelf 5 times a day. He will sit and just look at books for an hour. He also will bring me books on a regular basis. He somewhat knows the title to most of his books. He will hand me The Itsy Bitsy Spider and say, "I want the spider." He will hand me, If You Give a Mouse a Cookie and say, "I want the cookie mouse," and so on.
Joseph is playing with his siblings a lot more now. Anya and Joseph will wrestle on Anya's bed and then play on the rocking horse in Anya's room together. This makes me a little nervous, well because I am always nervous when I can't see those two. But I am so glad that they are playing and having fun together.
Joseph is now in the "no stage". He says no to everything!! All of my kids have at some point. We usually like to tease the current "no child" by asking them to say things. Usually the kid in question just says no or uhuh. Joseph is a little different. If you say, "Joey, say cat." Joseph will say, "no, cat!" He is just so cute and fun right now. I am glad that I get a fun little boy between the get into everything and temper tantrum stages. It is a nice reprieve.
Joseph always says, "thank", when you give him something that he wants. He also says sorry when I get after him for making a mess. That just melts my heart. How can I be mad at him then?
Joseph loves books. I think that is why he dumps them off the shelf 5 times a day. He will sit and just look at books for an hour. He also will bring me books on a regular basis. He somewhat knows the title to most of his books. He will hand me The Itsy Bitsy Spider and say, "I want the spider." He will hand me, If You Give a Mouse a Cookie and say, "I want the cookie mouse," and so on.
Joseph is playing with his siblings a lot more now. Anya and Joseph will wrestle on Anya's bed and then play on the rocking horse in Anya's room together. This makes me a little nervous, well because I am always nervous when I can't see those two. But I am so glad that they are playing and having fun together.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Why It is Important to Know and to Act
In the October 2010 conference Boyd K. Packer said, "If we do not protect and foster the family, civilization and our liberties must needs perish." There are a lot of well funded anti-family groups that are trying to institute their agenda which is to destroy marriage, undermine parental rights and religion, and subvert the judicial system. These same groups have also advocated profligate spending and enormous debt. While pro-family groups have had a lot of victories in a lot of states and it seems like the majority of Americans still support a moral society, the presidential election of 2008 introduced the most anti-family, pro-abortion, anti-marriage political movement in American history. One of the most stunning anti-family advances from the current presidential administration is the announcement to no longer support the law signed in by President Clinton in 1996 that defines marriage between a man and a woman known as DOMA. In our system, the appropriate way to make changes to a law one does not agree with is to propose a bill that would repeal it. Instead our President is ignoring our constitution by simply choosing to ignore the law. When our elected officials are allowed by all checks and balances to simply ignore a law, we can be sure that better days are behind us. If we support virtue, our constitution, and a lawful, free society we must act. We must be alert of the bills that are in Congress. We must know what our local judges are doing and we must spread the word. The power to vote is the main power we have to "protect and foster the family" in our nation, states, and neighborhoods. Once we know what is going on we can send emails and make phone calls to our legislatures and we can vote out judges. We can also donate money to groups who are working to protect the family. It is important to know and it is time to act or like President Packer warns, "civilization and our liberties must needs perish."
Anya's Hair Cut
About two weeks ago Anya had Rachel cut her hair. Rachel cut a bunch of Anya's hair off of one side to just below Anya's ear. When I found Anya with obviously cut hair, I accused Anya of cutting her own hair. Anya said that she didn't cut her hair, that Rachel did. I didn't believe her, and John didn't believe her. John put Anya in time out for lying. But he want to Rachel to see if he could figure out the whole story. Rachel said that Anya brought her scissors and asked her to give her a hair cut. I am not sure whose fault this is: Anya's for telling another little kid to cut her hair, or Rachel's for actually doing it. But it was done. At first I tried parting Anya's hair in the middle and putting two high pony tails in her hair everyday. This did hide the problem well, but after a week and a half, I felt like it was too much effort and Anya was pretty tired of having her hair pulled back everyday, so I cut the rest of her hair. It looks okay. John even thinks it looks pretty cute. I am still going to try to get Rachel and Anya to have long hair like Ruth and Kate. But my two little girls seem to really like haircuts!
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| Before she had Rachel cut her hair |
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| After I cut her hair the rest of the way |
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| Anya is just soooo cute, I can't decide which pictures to post |
Monday, March 28, 2011
My Thoughts For Utah Women
For the people who know me or have been following my blog for more than a year and a half know that I am not from Utah. I have only lived here for a short time. I grew up on the east Coast, mostly in Maine. Moving to here from there is somewhat like moving to a different country. My husband and I moved here after living in Kansas for 5 years and living in the north east previously. My husband grew up here and that is what has brought us to this great state.
I am writing my opinions about Utah women not to hurt any feelings, but because I think you (women from Utah) are a lot better than you realize. My sister in law, who has grown up and still lives here wrote:
The pressure of perfection. We live (well I do, and most readers on this blog do too) in Utah. and I have to say, Utah is a great place. I love it (besides winter! booo!) and I love the great family values that are in utah. However....because my neighbor on one side can have 6 kids and be completely calm, and has never faught with her husband, and her house is always clean, and she makes meals from scratch 3 times a day, and never seems worn out....as a new mom I feel like something is wrong with me. I have one kid, and it's all I can do to not bawl my eyes out. what's wrong with me? Or now that I have 2 kids, I can't have a clean house AND a meal on the table. it's one or the other hub, pick one. That makes me feel like there is something wrong. (not ME personally, just in general) We have great examples of motherhood all around us, but instead of looking to them as just that: examples - we look to them as ideal. perfect. we need to be everything that they are. When the truth is, the majority of moms that are open about things will admit that the reason their house looks perfect everytime you go over is because they cleaned it 15 minutes before they knew you were giong to show up. Any mother with toddlers knows her house isn't perfect all the time. But i think we all feel like, at some point in our mothering, that pressure of that our house should be perfect.
I have found that to be true only in Utah. Neighbors look at each other and other women at church and stress and work hard to be all just alike-- that perfect Utah woman! I have seen amazing women feel intimidated and spend a whole lot of time on image. It stuns me to walk into Wal-mart and see young mothers with perfect hair, and make-up and wearing designer clothes. They are toting along children that look like they came out of a catalog. There is nothing wrong with this, except that as I got to know some of these designer women shopping in Wal-mart, I realized that they are seriously stressed about little things. In fact, most of them seem afraid of not appearing "perfect".
Utah women seem to be in a constant state of worry. They worry about messy houses, messy hair, not getting dressed and putting on make up every morning, their bodies not being fit and thin enough. They worry about not being the perfect wife with a gourmet meal on the table when their husbands come home. They worry if they slip and yell at a child that they are not good mothers. I think that most women here expect themselves to have perfectly clean and beautifully decorated houses; to have perfectly smart, behaved, and beautiful looking children whom they always speak to in a soft kind voice; to have a beautifully fit body, clean designer clothes, and to always have perfect hair and make up; to have gourmet food ready for hubby at 6pm each night; to be very spiritual, loving, and do amazing things with their callings at church; and of course to bring homemade tofu, eggplant chip cookies that taste like gramma's chocolate chip cookies each day to some one in need.
At first, I was very intimidated by these women. I know without a doubt that I do not match up to the "perfect woman". I yell at my kids on occasion. I look kind of dumpy, I put my hair in a pony tail and only wear mascara most days. My kids have stains on their clothes, and my house has toys and books every where almost all of the time. I know I do not exercise enough and I eat junk food. My kids eat junk food. I don't have gourmet dinners on the table every night. I don't always have enough energy to be a smiling mom serving my neighbors, and my family would kill me if I tried serving tofu, eggplant cookies. And some days we actually watch like 3 hours of TV because we are sick or just plain old need a lazy day. But guess what? I do not stress about it. If I yell at my kids, I apoligize and try to be kinder and nicer. Hopefully some day, I will be the perfectly calm nice mom. Right now, I think it is good as long as I am trying.In fact, most of my life I have felt like a pretty good Mom. After living in Utah for a year and a half I know that I am surrounded by a lot of very good mothers and women who are doing a great job at being good mothers and women. This is how I know.
When I was a "rookie mom", I got fed the opposite diet from Utah rookie moms. It was easy to feel good about myself as a mom because I wasn't yelling at my kids in the park or spanking their bums in the grocery store. I reserved that for home. I wasn't leaving them with a babysitter 12 hours a day and then getting them McDonald's everyday for dinner. I also wasn't the one saying out loud to my friends how terrible my kid was because he pooped and I couldn't get to the salon on time. I also wasn't saying out loud in front of my kids that I just had an abortion because I was sure I could not stand another one of these kids messing up my life. (All of these things I have heard and witnessed-- no exaggeration) I wasn't smoking, or drinking or showing my kids violent and sexually explicit movies. I actually felt like a pretty good mom.
Utah moms are pretty darn good too. I never hear yelling parents in public, people aren't belittling their kids to their friends, and no one works so much they feed their kids fast food before they send them to bed nearly everyday. Most moms here are careful about what they let their kids read and watch, and they do not smoke, drink, and swear with their kids hanging around. Utah is filled full of good, wonderful women trying to be the best they can. So if you are a Utah woman feeling pretty down that you have a messy home, or blah hair, or you don't like to cook, or you just yelled at your kid, or you don't get dressed everyday, or you just ate 3 bowls of ice cream and haven't exercised in a month. CHILL-- YOU ARE AMAZING! You do not have to be perfect.
I am writing my opinions about Utah women not to hurt any feelings, but because I think you (women from Utah) are a lot better than you realize. My sister in law, who has grown up and still lives here wrote:
The pressure of perfection. We live (well I do, and most readers on this blog do too) in Utah. and I have to say, Utah is a great place. I love it (besides winter! booo!) and I love the great family values that are in utah. However....because my neighbor on one side can have 6 kids and be completely calm, and has never faught with her husband, and her house is always clean, and she makes meals from scratch 3 times a day, and never seems worn out....as a new mom I feel like something is wrong with me. I have one kid, and it's all I can do to not bawl my eyes out. what's wrong with me? Or now that I have 2 kids, I can't have a clean house AND a meal on the table. it's one or the other hub, pick one. That makes me feel like there is something wrong. (not ME personally, just in general) We have great examples of motherhood all around us, but instead of looking to them as just that: examples - we look to them as ideal. perfect. we need to be everything that they are. When the truth is, the majority of moms that are open about things will admit that the reason their house looks perfect everytime you go over is because they cleaned it 15 minutes before they knew you were giong to show up. Any mother with toddlers knows her house isn't perfect all the time. But i think we all feel like, at some point in our mothering, that pressure of that our house should be perfect.
I have found that to be true only in Utah. Neighbors look at each other and other women at church and stress and work hard to be all just alike-- that perfect Utah woman! I have seen amazing women feel intimidated and spend a whole lot of time on image. It stuns me to walk into Wal-mart and see young mothers with perfect hair, and make-up and wearing designer clothes. They are toting along children that look like they came out of a catalog. There is nothing wrong with this, except that as I got to know some of these designer women shopping in Wal-mart, I realized that they are seriously stressed about little things. In fact, most of them seem afraid of not appearing "perfect".
Utah women seem to be in a constant state of worry. They worry about messy houses, messy hair, not getting dressed and putting on make up every morning, their bodies not being fit and thin enough. They worry about not being the perfect wife with a gourmet meal on the table when their husbands come home. They worry if they slip and yell at a child that they are not good mothers. I think that most women here expect themselves to have perfectly clean and beautifully decorated houses; to have perfectly smart, behaved, and beautiful looking children whom they always speak to in a soft kind voice; to have a beautifully fit body, clean designer clothes, and to always have perfect hair and make up; to have gourmet food ready for hubby at 6pm each night; to be very spiritual, loving, and do amazing things with their callings at church; and of course to bring homemade tofu, eggplant chip cookies that taste like gramma's chocolate chip cookies each day to some one in need.
At first, I was very intimidated by these women. I know without a doubt that I do not match up to the "perfect woman". I yell at my kids on occasion. I look kind of dumpy, I put my hair in a pony tail and only wear mascara most days. My kids have stains on their clothes, and my house has toys and books every where almost all of the time. I know I do not exercise enough and I eat junk food. My kids eat junk food. I don't have gourmet dinners on the table every night. I don't always have enough energy to be a smiling mom serving my neighbors, and my family would kill me if I tried serving tofu, eggplant cookies. And some days we actually watch like 3 hours of TV because we are sick or just plain old need a lazy day. But guess what? I do not stress about it. If I yell at my kids, I apoligize and try to be kinder and nicer. Hopefully some day, I will be the perfectly calm nice mom. Right now, I think it is good as long as I am trying.In fact, most of my life I have felt like a pretty good Mom. After living in Utah for a year and a half I know that I am surrounded by a lot of very good mothers and women who are doing a great job at being good mothers and women. This is how I know.
When I was a "rookie mom", I got fed the opposite diet from Utah rookie moms. It was easy to feel good about myself as a mom because I wasn't yelling at my kids in the park or spanking their bums in the grocery store. I reserved that for home. I wasn't leaving them with a babysitter 12 hours a day and then getting them McDonald's everyday for dinner. I also wasn't the one saying out loud to my friends how terrible my kid was because he pooped and I couldn't get to the salon on time. I also wasn't saying out loud in front of my kids that I just had an abortion because I was sure I could not stand another one of these kids messing up my life. (All of these things I have heard and witnessed-- no exaggeration) I wasn't smoking, or drinking or showing my kids violent and sexually explicit movies. I actually felt like a pretty good mom.
Utah moms are pretty darn good too. I never hear yelling parents in public, people aren't belittling their kids to their friends, and no one works so much they feed their kids fast food before they send them to bed nearly everyday. Most moms here are careful about what they let their kids read and watch, and they do not smoke, drink, and swear with their kids hanging around. Utah is filled full of good, wonderful women trying to be the best they can. So if you are a Utah woman feeling pretty down that you have a messy home, or blah hair, or you don't like to cook, or you just yelled at your kid, or you don't get dressed everyday, or you just ate 3 bowls of ice cream and haven't exercised in a month. CHILL-- YOU ARE AMAZING! You do not have to be perfect.
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Today During Church
Today during church, I knelt down on the floor to pick up all of the paper Joseph was ripping and tossing. I smelt that familiar foot smell, turned, saw Kate's feet and said, "I smell stinky feet, and I think they are Kate's." Kate gasped with horror and began a 10 minute lecture on how, everyone has stinky feet, her feet are NOT that stinky, and why does she have to have a rude mother.
Today on the way home from church Kate said, "puke reminds me of mom."
Johnny replied, "love reminds me of mom."
Kate replied, "Romeo and Juliet remind me of love."
I replied, "Kate and Jonah (boy a church who Kate says she does not flirt with) remind me of love."
BAM, BAM, BAM went Kate's foot into the back of my seat.
John (the dad) replied, "Do not ruin our car."
Almost the end...
Today on the way home from church Kate said, "puke reminds me of mom."
Johnny replied, "love reminds me of mom."
Kate replied, "Romeo and Juliet remind me of love."
I replied, "Kate and Jonah (boy a church who Kate says she does not flirt with) remind me of love."
BAM, BAM, BAM went Kate's foot into the back of my seat.
John (the dad) replied, "Do not ruin our car."
Almost the end...
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Ruth Turns 13
I am officially the parent of a teenager. I have been dreading this, at least I was a few years ago. Things like this seem to creep up on you without you recognizing any real change. We have discussed good teenagers as opposed to the classical teenager. I want my teenagers to be happy and successful and that means being a good person even when it is hard and your body is changing a lot. So for the first day, things are pretty good. In fact, Ruth really is quite amazing on the whole. She is an excellent student, she is helpful and organized at home. She doesn't mind working and cleaning and helping with her younger siblings. She reads her scriptures and prays. She attends church happily and likes to learn at church. I have no complaints. I just hopes she stays on the same path.
I think Ruth had a pretty good birthday. It is unusual to have my parents around for a birthday, so that made the whole event more special. We did the normal fancy dinner, presents, and cake, and then a bunch of us went to see Tangled in the dollar theater.
St. Patrick's Day Food
St. Patrick's day came during my parent's visit. They were nice and let me dye all of our food green. We had green milk on our cereal for breakfast. I put the kids initials in green on their peanut butter sandwiches for lunch, and we had green chicken fajitas made by my mom for dinner. Instead of rolled eyes, my kids seemed to enjoy our green day. And some of the stuff got eaten too.
Not Blogging For a Good Reason
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Oh The Things They Say
From Rachel: I love steak. It tastes like Music.
From Kate: Mom you're clean,. Your house may not look as nice as everyone else's. But that's because you have so many little ones. You clean more than anyone else.
From Kate: Mom you're clean,. Your house may not look as nice as everyone else's. But that's because you have so many little ones. You clean more than anyone else.
Friday, March 11, 2011
How I Know Adam is Growing Up
2. Adam is a great older brother. He is good at holding the baby for me when I am busy in the mornings. He is also good at starting games with Anya and Rachel. He is very kind to them most of the time too. Wednesday, he sat down next to Rachel and said, "You are a good sister, Rachel. Did you know that?"
3. Adam has a new plan for his future: he would like to grow a goatee. Last night he said to me, "When I am a dad, I am going to have a goatee because I like them!"
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
7.5 Weeks
It has been 7 1/2 weeks since Joshua was born. He has grown by leaps and bounds, and he has lost the newborn look. It is sad that the tiny stage just does not last very long. He is still just as calm as ever. Joshua is sleeping a lot better now too. He was nursing 4 to 5 times a night and now he is only nursing 1 to 2 times a night.
As far as I go, I have 20 to 30 pounds to lose. I gained 10 pounds after Anya was born that I never lost. Then I gained another 10 pounds after Joseph was born that I never lost, and now I am still another 10 pounds heavier. If I lose just 20 pounds, I will be okay with that. If I lose 30 pounds I will be back to my college weight. That would be nice, but I am older and I have had 8 babies. I will be satisfied with being 10 pounds heavier than I was when I was 19.
My weight loss plan is to lay off desserts and to exercise 3 to 5 days a week. I have worked out part b pretty well. I bought a used elliptical last Saturday and I am using it during nap time. We don't always have a nap time. But we do have a nap time at least 3 to 5 days a week. Since this has always been my personal time, I won't be losing any time that I spend cleaning the house or interacting with my family. When it warms up a little more, I want to start taking my babies on long evening walks. We live near a city trail, so that could work out well.
The part I am finding challenging is eating less sugar. My kids expect cookies after school most days. Most days I make them cookies. Then I eat the cookies too. I am either going to have to listen to a lot of complaining kids eating fruit (which we do, but if we do fruit for every snack instead of homemade cookies, my food budget jumps up a lot.) or just stop eating the cookies. I think I should just work on self control. I find it easy to not eat too much and to not eat anything sugary until school gets out. Then I am tired and want to eat junk along with my kids. Anyway, I have to work on this a lot! Does anyone have any ideas?
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| Joshua at one week |
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| Joshua in the same basket at 7 weeks |
As far as I go, I have 20 to 30 pounds to lose. I gained 10 pounds after Anya was born that I never lost. Then I gained another 10 pounds after Joseph was born that I never lost, and now I am still another 10 pounds heavier. If I lose just 20 pounds, I will be okay with that. If I lose 30 pounds I will be back to my college weight. That would be nice, but I am older and I have had 8 babies. I will be satisfied with being 10 pounds heavier than I was when I was 19.
My weight loss plan is to lay off desserts and to exercise 3 to 5 days a week. I have worked out part b pretty well. I bought a used elliptical last Saturday and I am using it during nap time. We don't always have a nap time. But we do have a nap time at least 3 to 5 days a week. Since this has always been my personal time, I won't be losing any time that I spend cleaning the house or interacting with my family. When it warms up a little more, I want to start taking my babies on long evening walks. We live near a city trail, so that could work out well.
The part I am finding challenging is eating less sugar. My kids expect cookies after school most days. Most days I make them cookies. Then I eat the cookies too. I am either going to have to listen to a lot of complaining kids eating fruit (which we do, but if we do fruit for every snack instead of homemade cookies, my food budget jumps up a lot.) or just stop eating the cookies. I think I should just work on self control. I find it easy to not eat too much and to not eat anything sugary until school gets out. Then I am tired and want to eat junk along with my kids. Anyway, I have to work on this a lot! Does anyone have any ideas?
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
How I Do It: Organization in a Big Family Part III
Making Cleaning Easy
I learned how to do this from the worst job, but most useful jobs I have ever had-- cleaning hotel rooms. (It is funny how miserable things can turn into huge blessings.)
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| My cleaning supplies include: ammonia, murphy's oil soap, comet, toilet cleaner, cloth rags made from old towells and t-shirts, and green scoth-bright scrubbies |
As you can see, I use very few cleaning supplies. I put the ammonia and the murphies in spray bottles mixed with 90% water. For cleaning the bathrooms, I squirt and wipe the floors, sinks, and exteriors of the toilets. I do not have spend anytime rinsing because watered ammonia does not need rinsing out. This saves a ton of time, kills the germs, and leaves things sparkling clean. It is also very cost efficient. I use comet and scrubbies on the bathtubs and shower walls. the comet is cheap and does a good job of removing soap scum. We always install shower heads with hoses to make rinsing easy so that saves me time too. (They are also nice for bathing.) I use toilet bowl cleaner in the toilet because it is so concentrated. I use a toilet brush inside the toilet. During the week, I wipe things off as needed with the flushable wipes we keep on the back of every toilet. I only do this when I use the bathroom and see a need. This saves time too because it is fast, I use something we already have for other purposes, and I am not scheduling in extra cleaning.
I use the spray bottle of ammonia for almost every spill. It works well on carpeting, furniture, walls, etc. We just spray and wipe with a rag or towel and the surface is clean and not sticky. This also kills germs. Since ammonia water does not get bubbley it is a great cleaner for carpeting and upholstery. No rinsing is needed. However, when using a carpet cleaner I usually use the recommended soap because it smells better.
I use murphy's oil soap mixed with 90% water in a spray bottle for wood surfaces. To wash my kitchen cabinets and to dust most of our surfaces, I spray and wipe with a soft rag. This is fast, and cheap. Again. There is no rinsing and no filling up a bucket.
One other trick I recently learned is to use the toilet cleaner around the faucets to remove hard water deposits. This is not easy and needs a lot of rinsing. I do not have to do this too often, though. The ammonia keeps the dirt off, and the sinks and faucets shiney pretty well, and perfectly well when we did not have hard water.
The ammonia and murphy's spray bottles keep my house clean and disinfected without much cost and without much effort.
Broken Television
Our TV broke completely. It will not even turn on. We do not have the money saved to buy a new TV. We are not going to buy a TV on credit as we have great doubts that no TV counts as an emergency worthy of credit card debt.
After Joshua was born, we got into the habit of watching a lot more TV everyday after school. I had been thinking we need to stop this. But 6 children anxious to relax and watch TV everyday did not help my resolve to get back to normal. Well, a broken TV helps that resolve a whole lot, and we have been so much more productive since then.
Of course, we still have the computer. It is just not so cozy and comfy. We really have to want to watch something to make watching movies on the computer worth while.
After Joshua was born, we got into the habit of watching a lot more TV everyday after school. I had been thinking we need to stop this. But 6 children anxious to relax and watch TV everyday did not help my resolve to get back to normal. Well, a broken TV helps that resolve a whole lot, and we have been so much more productive since then.
Of course, we still have the computer. It is just not so cozy and comfy. We really have to want to watch something to make watching movies on the computer worth while.
Johnny at the Denist
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| I rarely have a normal picture of Johnny |
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