The Nightmare

Last night John and I had the same nightmare, otherwise known as a slumber party. We had 8 giddy, obnoxious girls at our house for 15 hours and they only slept for 5 of those. We learned a few things from this nightmare. First, our own kids are really pretty good. And secondly some change in friendship needs to be made. Let me explain. A few of the girls ( all nine years old) talked about boys and making out and and their complete crushes. Well, boys and crushes are okay. But nine year old girls talking about wanting to make out sets off an alarm with me. I do not remember girls in fourth grade doing that. Most of the girls I knew in fifth grade that talked like that were sexually active in middle school and did not graduate from high school. So of course I am worried that not only do I have little girls talking about making out in my home, but that the other girls seem to look up to these girls and think that they are funny and interesting. Well that was only part of the nightmare. We had a girl from a rather unstable family home that was in constant need of attention from the girls and the grownups. The girls did not use normal voices either. Everything they said came out in shouts and several of them would be shouting at the same time. It did not seem to matter how much we told them to use quiet or even just normal voices, the shouting did not cease. We would have let them talk after we turned the lights out, but since talking meant shouting at 12:30am we had to sit in the room until they all settled down and went to sleep. That was around 1:30am. We thought that they would sleep in until 8am, but they were up and shouting at 7am. Then by 7:30 they were asking for breakfast in rather rude ways. We made a big breakfast with eggs, sausage, home fries, and pancakes and they ate it all up accept for a few eggs before John and I could get breakfast. At least we fed our little kids along with these girls. Then they hung around until 10am and we were relieved to see them go away. Of course it wasn't long after they all left that we had a talk about girls who talk about making out and the future sorrow they face no matter how fun and cool it seems now. We also had that talk of why we should choose good friends and how to go about being kind to our old friends while looking for new friends. One thing that was nice is that neither Ruth nor Kate joined in any of the bad things. In fact, Ruth seemed rather embarrassed. Maybe it was only because they knew Mom and Dads eyes and ears were there. But that is why Mom and Dad need to have eyes and ears available at all times. I think that sibling eyes and ears can help too. Anyway, we don't want to have anymore big sleepover parties. We have all been zombies all day.