Saturday, February 2, 2019

Stories from Ruth #69



 
This week on Friday we celebrated Elder Cherrington's birthday during games night. On Saturday we helped out the elders with their baptism and then the Brays as their daughter Kaylie turned 8 and was having her baptism! Kaylie is one of my favorite kids here every time she sees me she hugs me and asks when we are coming over again!

On Wednesday we had a miracle. So before Christmas we left our flat early to go to an appointment which did not happen and on our way back God prompted me to speak to the people we saw because we are never out before 9am. Well the last one happened to be this boy from South Africa named Brian. It was his first year at school and he was going to be going back to Cambridge with his family the next for his holiday. We talked to him and I was prompted to share Helaman 5:12 "And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall." 

Brian was touched and then we shared that it was from the Book of Mormon and shared about how it
was another testament to the bible about Christ. We gave him a copy and invited him to read and pray about it over the break and meet with us when he came back. This week he came back. He had read the introduction and agreed to meet us on Wednesday. He is Christian but his family is not connected to anyone church and currently are looking for one. We shared with him about the restoration and when we shared the first vision he was visibly touched. He just kept saying hoe amazing it was. Brian agreed to study, ponder, and pray about the Book of Mormon that night and to pray about it and about baptism. He then asked when we could meet again and told us that he had already told his friend about us and his friend wanted to meet us as well, so we will be seeing them both this Wednesday!
Cool thing is our new district leader is also from South Africa, so he will meet Brian as well!
I really know that this church is true. I know that Joseph Smith is a prophet and the priesthood of God has been restored for the benefit and blessing of his children! I know God loves us and the Book of Mormon is a testament that he still speaks to us and always will as he did before!
Oh it is cold out here sometimes. Generally this winter has been mild which is a great blessing! England has such green winters! None of the trees have leaves but they are covered in green moss and green ivy!

Monday, January 28, 2019

Adam Preparing to Meet Girls

Or enjoying his new very nerdy glasses...




Sunday, January 27, 2019

This Week at Our House #4: Post Partum Week 1



The first week home has been hard-ish. The kids eat all day and make so many dishes. I think the strain on Kate and Johnny, and Rachel and Anya has been too much. Adam cut his hand  two days before I had the baby, so he has been out of a lot of chores. Still, he has helped with dry things and taking care of Sam.

Anya and Rachel and Kate and Johnny, though I feel like they have had to do too much, have stepped it up and done a lot to keep the home in order, the kitchen cleaned, the dishes done, and the laundry washed. Johnny cleaned both bathrooms and washed our wood floors. Those are chores, I often reserve for myself. Johnny did that in addition to everything else he has done plus all of his own work. Kate cooked all the meals, usually with Joseph as a help, and Anya and Rachel did a lot of the kitchen clean up and laundry. 

Kate made me a double batch of orange rolls the day I got home from the hospital. They were so good and lasted
like 4 days. Kate would heat them up in the oven for me and they were like silk to bite into. I loved them so much.

Sam has been grumpy and weepy. Obviously his world is turned upside down. But he certainly has made himself a handful always crying and whining and asking to watch tv. I don't think I could count the times he has laid on the floor to cry and kick around. Hopefully, it won't take him too much longer to adjust. He is affectionate enough with Gideon and does not seem to blame him for how he is feeling. 

The other kids have played way too much computer and watched way too much tv, so their behavior has been pretty awful. Joseph punched Johnny in the stomach for taking his book. Then he played computer when he was told not to and then lied about it. He also climbed and kicked around in the laundry room, dumped out a bunch of laundry soap and then had everyone else clean it up and that took almost an hour because the soap is so concentrated. Usually Joseph is very good. I was surprised that he had such a rough week.


Josh knocked Sam off a bench and into the fire place to take Sam's place at the computer.  Josh has also cried probably as much as Sam has and mostly because we tell him to pick something up. He also told a lie too, but I am not sure about what or why.

Arwen has had a whole host of snarky and rude things to say. In fact, it was Arwen's snark that lost them all computer time more than Joseph's and Joshua's behavior. Arwen just insults and complains no matter what you are trying to do with her unless that thing is playing minecraft. She may be off computer games for a year.

Susan hasn't been much worse than normal, on the whole, but she has taken to the computer now too. We are keeping it locked now to keep her off. She and Josh tend to have pulling wars over the mouse. They have already broken one. She also tells us that she needs to watch tv 10 times a day and that gets very old. 

Needless to say, we have ended all computer games unless they are playing with dad.

Hopefully, things will get better for next week. It's always hard when you bring a new baby into the family. I wish I could just give birth and be all better, but it is never like that. In fact, the Lord commanded the Israelites to give mothers 33 days of purification if they give birth to a boy and 66 if they give birth to a girl. So, I can conclude that even God doesn't expect mothers to have a baby and come home and do everything again. 

Gideon is doing very well. He has very good eye contact and just stares at us and seems to be thinking deeply. He smiles already. We got a great picture of him smiling at Rachel at just 3 days old. No one, not us or the doctors, are worried about his brain anymore. He is a perfect little baby and as healthy as can be. 

Ruth did not get a mission extension. It is rare that they do. So I think she will be home in about six weeks. We have a lot to do to prepare for her homecoming, but we will be so glad to have her back.

More Pictures




bright pink sunset











Rachel and Anya folding the laundry





Sunday, January 20, 2019

Birth Announcement and Story


I am a little at a loss for words in describing Gideon's birth. It was the easiest delivery I have had yet, and probably the fastest from when I had real pain to when he came out. I need to begin the story on the Sunday night nearly a week before Gideon came. Just before midnight that night I was sitting on my bed with my older kids and John talking about the scriptures and some of the recent things we had read from the Joseph Smith papers. I sat up and suddenly I felt a gal stone come out of my gal bladder and into my common bile duct. I have been having that for a year and a half. It is usually 30 to 60 minutes of a lot of pain and then suddenly it passes and it is as if it never happened. Twice a stone has taken two hours to pass through. I felt a bit offended at my body for sending a stone through this far along in the pregnancy, but thought I could endure an hour's pain before getting to bed.

Three hours later, the pain had not only continued but had intensified to beyond what I had ever experienced. John and I prayed about it and decided to go to the hospital. If the stone was not going to pass on its own, then I was in an emergency situation.

We got to the hospital and the pain was intense enough that I  could not even walk. They put me on the baby monitors to keep an eye on Gideon and spent an hour telling me that I could not know it was a gal stone without testing and if it was gal stones, I should be vomiting. I rolled my eyes at that. I sat in the bed with the baby being monitored while I writhed in pain and the doctors and nurses discussed what to do about me for another hour and a half. By this time, it was 5:30am. They decided to give me a bunch of medicine and preform an ultrasound on my gal bladder and other upper organs.

They gave me a shot of zofran for nausea I was not having and then made me drink a bunch of different medicines for indigestion, which I wasn't having. Then they began to wheel me to the ultrasound. I am not sure if this is fortunate or unfortunate, but the medicines for indigestion made me sick, in the hallway with nurses standing around me. I was horrified, because I hate to vomit. But when that was over, I noticed that the pain was too. Vomiting made the stone finally pass through. I went on to the ultrasound.

When I got back into the hospital room the doctor and nurses came in with new respect. Indeed my gal bladder was full of stones and sludge and my common bile duct was swollen from the stone that had been lodged in it for 6 hours. But it had passed, so there was no longer an emergency. There was mild discussion on delivering the baby, but I said that after that night of pain all I wanted to do was go home and go to bed. They agreed that was for the best. They told me I would need surgery to remove my gal bladder. Then they monitored the baby another half hour because the baby's heart rate had fallen with the contractions I had had that night. After assuring the baby was fine, I walked out of the hospital pain free.

On my midwife's appointment on Tuesday, they suggested that I go and be induced. I had been avoiding that topic for two weeks because John and I both felt like Gideon needed to stay in me longer than we normally had other babies stay because of the issues he had already had. But by this time, I felt like having him over the weekend would be fine. I told the midwife that Friday was the soonest I would be willing to go in for an induction. (I didn't want to be in the hospital for Josh's birthday anyway.)

Friday morning I had to call the hospital to see if they were not too busy for an induction and they said they were, but to call back in 5 more hours. I called back in five more hours and they were still busy, so I gave up on the idea of having Gideon on Friday. I didn't want to, but I knew that I could wait until Monday.

I think my midwife did not want me to wait until Monday because an hour or so later the hospital called me back and said they had a room reserved for me. John and I went in.

It took them a while to get things set up. In fact, it took them 4 tries to get an iv in. I have one very bruised arm. Then I sat for an hour while iv antibiotics drained into my iv. After and hour, they hooked me up to pitocin. I think that was about 3pm when that got started. Contractions started slowly, but they were never very painful. At 4:45 the midwife decided it was time to check me and break my water. I was 6cm dilated. I had been 5cm at my Tuesday appointment, so not much progress. The midwife broke my water and said that she would be going home and the doctor over her would deliver the baby.

Well, things went very quickly from there. They had my water broken at 4:50, I called the nurse back about 5:05. They checked and I was 8cm. The midwofe came back in the room. I rolled to my side to breath through the intense contractions. A few minutes later, the midwife looked at me and said she needed to check me. I said it was too painful to have fingers down there, but she checked me and said it was time to push. That rather surprised me. I thought I would have had more time than that. I complained that I missed the water birth. It's so much easier to move around in a tub of water than on a bed. They asked me how I wanted to push. I knew my side would not do, but moving felt impossible. I opted for the stirups as that seemed the easiest way for me to get in a better position. I got turned and one leg up and asked John to put my other leg up. Then the midwife said,"push". I was like "What? Already?" But I just pushed and I heard the midwife say, "the head is out." I looked down and without having to push again or wait for another contraction Gideon slid all the way out. John later said that he was worried the midwife was going to drop the baby, but she immediately put him up on my chest.

Labor and delivery was over at 5:13pm. They were hoping to keep him in me for another hour for the antibiotics, but he was not staying. I had pain for less than 30 minutes.

I then heard the midwife and the nurse discussing the odd position that Gideon came out in. His hand was up on his face, so his arm was up and his head and body were turned to the side. I had delivered his head and his hand and arm at the same time. I am guessing that is why he just slipped out once his head came.

I found that interesting. I have been reading the Old Testament this year. I read the birth stories of Rebecca and Tamar and how one baby came with a hand out first. I had mentioned how much more painful that must have been for them. I was astonished that a few weeks later, I had experienced a similar delivery and it actually hurt less.

John and I held Gideon and got to know him for an hour before we had the pediatricians come in to check him over. Then I went to the maternity room and John went with Gideon for the hospital mandated bath. When John got to me he stayed about a half hour before leaving for home to take care of things at home.

Because I was strep b positive, I had to stay in the hospital for 2 days. I got to leave Sunday at 3pm. We didn't bring the kids up to see the baby because the hospital staff told us that they could not have visitors under 12 because it is flu and rsv season. I had already thought that it might be a bad idea to bring in the little kids knowing those germs were already present at the hospital and not wanting a little one to crawl on the floor or lick something and pick those exact germs up and bring them home to the baby, our decision to just keep the kids home was made.

However, while I was there, I heard several toddlers and the nurses asked me why my kids were not coming. I guess they didn't expect people to follow their own rules. There was also some domestic dispute with yelling and swearing and security being called and all. It sure is a different world than it was when I first started having kids! Gideon and I were certainly glad to get to the peace of our own home and out of the worldliness of the hospital.

Gideon is as healthy and strong and beautiful as can be, and I am sure grateful for the gospel of Jesus Christ that teaches us how to have happy, healthy, and peace filled lives.

This Week at Our House #3: Welcome Gideon Moroni


I am not going to write any details of this week just yet. We held school all week, had Joshua's birthday on Thursday and welcomed Gideon on Friday. Gideon and I had to stay in the hospital until late this afternoon. We are home and happy and healthy.  All of the kids are excited to meet their new baby brother and welcome him home and into the family. I came home to a very clean house and happy children!

Pictures

3rd 1000 piece puzzle