Who I am, and Why I Stand Where I Do: Part III

My experience with homosexuality all occurred while I was quite young. I got to see hands on how different people chose that lifestyle. In this segment of Who I am, and Why I stand Where I Do, I am going to cover why I think homosexuality is a choice, and how homosexual activists are proselyting to children. Friday, I am going to write a final segment and discuss how homosexual activists are recruiting you, the danger of the homosexual lifestyle, and what it really means to love your gay friend or family member.
 
First, I do not believe homosexuality is genetic. I do not believe anyone is "born gay". My personal experiences and scientific research tell me otherwise.

I had much of the same experiences as my friends. We all had adults tell us that we were gay. We all had friends tell us we were gay. We all had an opportunity to try out a homosexual relationship before we "felt" we may be gay. Many of us had psychiatrists tell us any depression or anxiety we felt was because we were gay and we would all be better if we embraced that lifestyle. We were all very young too.

Sometime ago, I reposted an article by the United Families International on the myth of the gay gene. Here is the complete article. Some of the highlights are:

1. No scientist or researcher has ever proven that homosexuality is genetic, immutable or unchangeable.  In fact many of the so-called gay gene studies, such as the Bailey/Pillard “twin studies,” prove the exact opposite – homosexual behavior is not genetic.
2. The American Psychological Association states: “There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay or lesbian orientation. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social, and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors. Many think that nature and nurture both play complex roles….

You  can find a list of studies about genetics and homosexuality on page 35 of this document.

Second, The homosexual community proselytes. They are actively seeking to get young people to question their sexuality. Young people who have been molested or raped, girls who are tomboys, boys who are small of stature and like the arts, and children with depression and anxiety are particularly vulnerable. Why? Because these are the kids that either get told they are gay regularly, or because these are the kids that feel badly about themselves and are seeking for friends and a group to be a part of.

Here are two recent examples of the homosexual activists  proselyting homosexuality to children.

 Dan Savage, a homosexual activist leader began a campaign to "end bullying," called, It Get's Better. This campaign has put out TV advertisements,and is working to get gay-straight alliance clubs in schools.

One such add was aired during Fox's American Idle, June 10, 2011. When Peggy Nance, of Concerned Women for America, expressed outrage, Dan Savage, founder of the "It Gets Better project", stated::

“Nance’s son was always our target demo,”... “Again, we don’t know if he’s gay. But he might be and, if he is, he needs to hear from us.”
The “primary goal” of the campaign, he explained, is “to reach LGBT kids who are being bullied by their peers and their families.”
“Now I don’t know if Nance’s son is gay, bi, or trans, but if he is, he needs to know more than most that it can get better for him too, that there’s hope for his future, and that the adult world isn’t entirely populated by hateful s***s like his mother,” he wrote, adding “here’s hoping” that “Nance’s son is gay.”

Around the same time, Daniel Villarrea, a writer for The Queerity, a top online GBLT Magazine wrote an article entitled, Can We Please Just Start Admitting That We Do Actually Want To Indoctrinate Kids?. The entire article can be found here. (There is a lot of vulgar language in it.)

Other examples include public school programs already in place in California and Massachusetts.

Scott M. Soulier, of United Families International states:

Having a “gay” club to join in the secondary school setting  is tantamount to inviting students to self-label as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or sympathetic to the same.  Adolescents are psychologically unprepared to ponder such a question.  It is simply and demonstrably unsafe for youth to be allowed or encouraged to prematurely self-label.

From my own experience as a teenager, I would have to agree with this 100% . Every person I knew had significant trouble with depression and anxiety after having been involved in homosexual sex. And not one of these people came from a home where parents rejected their homosexuality or kicked them out of the home or anything of that sort. All of these people were supported and often congratulated by their friends. This was all before gay clubs, and school curriculum about homosexuality. Recent research by Remafedi, et al., supports my personal experience as well.


Scott M. Soulier, of United Families International highlights: I

1.  “…for each year’s delay in bisexual or homosexual labeling, the odds of suicide attempts are diminished by 20%.”
2.  “…suicide attempts were not explained by experiences with discrimination, violence, loss of friendship, or current personal attitudes towards homosexuality.”
3.   “…gender nonconformity and precocious psychosocial development were predictive of self-harm.
(Remafedi, G., Farrow, J. A., & Deisher,R. W., (1991). Risk factors for attempted suicide in gay and bisexual youth. Pediatrics, 87, p. 874.)

I do not believe that men like Dan Savage and Daniel Villarrea really care about children who are experiencing same sex attraction.These programs are not about love and helping people. Getting children to leave their families for a life of sex because "that is who they really are, " is not about love and help and safety.

Part IV coming soon:
How homosexual activists are recruiting you, and how to love your homosexual friend or family member.

 

Who I am, and Why I Stand Where I Do: Part II

In Part I of "Who I am, and Why I Stand Where I Do," I went over a bit of my teenage/young adult history with homosexuality. In Part II, I want to discuss, why some of the things were the way they were, and what happened to some of my old friends.

First, looking back at that history, I think people wonder if this could possibly be true. Where were my parents, why did I have friends like these, etc. So here are some answers to those questions. Yes, everything in Part I is true, and happened exactly as I described!

Where were my parents? They were right there, and I am sure that they worried about the friends that I had. I do not think they knew everything that was going on or how consistently my friends tried to push me away from religion and toward a life of sex. I think that my parents would have had to spend a lot of time questioning me about my friends and things that they say. I didn't really discuss things that went on away from home with my parents. I may have been vague when they asked. I know they did ask me on occasion. When they did push, in a teenage fashion, I pushed back.

Why did I have friends like these? I had one thing in common with all of my friends: depression. At age 7, I developed childhood depression. That continued until I was about 21. All of my friends, were like minded-- misery enjoys company.

How, when most of the people I spent time with were pushing me to be atheist and sexually active did I remain religious and morally clean? My parents were a big part of this one. We had family prayer, and family scripture study. We were required to go to church and all of our church activities. When I was seven years old, my family had moved a great distance, I was experiencing depression from the move, and my parents were experiencing severe financial problems. My world had turned upside down. My parents asked their bishop what they should do. Their bishop told them to read the Book of Mormon everyday as a family. My parents followed that advice. Being the serious little child that I was, I noticed a change in our home from before we had Book of Mormon reading to when we had it everyday. This made a HUGE difference in my life. I learned to love the Book of Mormon at age seven because I felt happier when we read it together as a family. I read the Book of Mormon through for the first time between the ages of 7 and 11. When things were tough for me at age 13, I read the Book of Mormon again. When I was 16, I decided that I needed to read 3 chapters from the Book of Mormon most nights. When I was 17, my New's Years Resolution was to read the Book of Mormon everyday no matter how late it got. When I got married at 21.5, I had read the Book of Mormon 23 times, The New Testament once, and the Doctrine and Covenants twice. I had also read whatever church books I could get a hold of. I think I really did crave religion. And I needed that. My diligent scripture study is what kept me safe, and firm in my religion.

Now, I want to talk about what history, I knew of some of my friends. First there was Sam, my one friend, that I met at 16, and he later became bi-sexual and then gay. I mentioned that he told me that at age 12, he kissed a boy that he had over his house during an "innocent friend sleepover" (There is a reason we do not allow sleep overs with our children.) After he decided he was all gay, he got a boyfriend, Nick. About 3 months into this relationship, Sam began seeing a psychiatrist, and was put on anti-depressants. One could argue, that Sam had leanings that way anyway. True, but not to the same severity. Two years into Sam's relationship with Nick, he began having sexual relationships with a girl. After a few months of this, Sam felt guilty and got a different psychiatrist to reaffirm his homosexuality. Nick, also sought professional help and began taking medication.

Another friend, Shawn, in my original group of 5, decided he was bisexual after he graduated high school. He had many male partners, but was always trying to find female partners. When I was 20, he was interested in me. I was not interested back. A few months after my rejection, he declared that he was 100% gay. I heard from him just before I got engaged, but not after. He also sought psychiatric help about the same time he tried out homosexuality, after high school. He confided in me that his psychiatrist helped him realize that he was all gay (as opposed to bisexual) and that is why he was having trouble with depression.

The guy that decided he was gay and wanted to have relationship with Travis, joined the army and decided that he mostly liked girls and a lot of alcohol.

After about 3 months of the bisexual girl always being physical with me, I quit hanging around her. I do not know any of her history. But at the time I did know her, she was on a couple of different psychiatric drugs, and was being told by her psychiatrist that she was gay and things would go better for her if she embraced her "true self".

Another friend that I acted in musicals with, was a small framed guy that liked dancing and singing and acting. A lot of men would say, "Oh, he is just gay, and does not know it yet." When he was about 22 after being told that he was gay consistently for years, and after graduating college with a degree in acting, he became gay. A year ago, he ran into my mother. He said to her that becoming homosexual was the biggest mistake he had ever made in his life. He said that he often mourns the loss of a wife and children. He also said that he cannot escape the homosexual lifestyle.

My sister, who liked sports, is tough, joined the army, and has always been a tomboy has had many people and especially psychiatrists tell her that she is a lesbian and that she just needs to embrace that lifestyle. My sister has not given into that pressure and the one thing she wants most in life is to marry and have children.





Part III coming soon

I will discuss how my experience with homosexuality has formed what I believe about it.

Who I am, and Why I Stand Where I Do: Part I

I post a lot of things about homosexuality, and  against the homosexual agenda. I am sure by many, I am labelled a bigot. Guess what? That is okay with me. I know where I stand, I know why I stand where I stand, and I am sure about it. I will explain:

I am a loyal friend. I have always been so. I love to talk, and if someone will hang out with me and talk, I will love them! I do love them. I love people easily. I just have to know the person. All my life, I have collected friends. But not just any friends. I collect close friends. I am always the one to make the effort to stay in touch. And it is usually just me. Most people don't care. But I love people. I love my friends-- old and new. This is just me and has always been me. I conscientiously stop sending notes and emails to people when they don't respond.  Recently, I have realized that is good, not bad or co-dependent.  It is okay to love the people you know. And that is what I do. If I know you, it is likely I will love you and be happy to have you around and stay in touch after one of us moves away.

When I was 12, my neighbor's mother left her husband and three children for a lesbian relationship. The oldest child, who had behavior problems from that time forward, went to jail after high school, and not much later ended his own life. That was my first experience with a homosexual person.

When I was 14, I babysat for a women with two children. She had recently gotten divorced and was living with another woman. After a few months of babysitting these kids, my mother told me the woman was a lesbian. I didn't believe her. But I looked through the house and noticed there were only two bedrooms. The one with the queen bed for the two adults, and the smaller room with the bunk bed for the two children. The children did not know about their mother or sex or anything. They were 8 and 6. I didn't babysit them for many more months after I found out the relationship. I never said anything, but I felt bad for the kids.

When I was nearly 16, a girl my age moved to my area. We had a lot in common and became close friends very quickly. This girl, had an old  boyfriend from her old state, who was bisexual. That was my third time hearing/ meeting some one with same sex attraction and behavior.

This friend and I were close friends. We spent most of our weekends together. This girl's parents called us lesbians. I was shocked! I had no feelings along those lines. I was shocked, disgusted, surprised. I had just turned 16. I had little experience with sex of any sort.I wondered why her parents would say that. I now wonder if she had leanings that way. I do not know.

Around this same time, 16, I formed a group of close friends in high school. There were about 5 of us, and the girl I mentioned above who I considered my best friend. All but this one girl considered themselves atheist. They would give me a lot of slack for believing in God. One time, one boy held me tight while another twisted my arm very hard behind my back. They kept hurting me more and more saying, "Say there is no God." (Good Friends, huh?) Eventually, they threw me on the dirty floor of the high school.

I stayed close friends with them for years. When, I was 17, the boy who twisted my arm, confided in me that he thought he was bisexual. I was okay with that. He had earlier shown me his masturbating journal, where he kept tally of every time he masturbated. He did make sexual advances toward me  from time to time, but he knew my standards and I was firm.

When, I was 18 this same boy, told me he was just gay and introduced me to his boyfriend. I was still close friends with him, and now I was close friends with his partner. The first guy, told me he first thought he was gay when at 12, he kissed the boy he had to his house for a sleep over.

This boy's,  time to time sexual advances toward me became more frequent after he decided he was gay. His partner did not do this. But the two of then would tell me that I was at least bisexual because of my best friend (who had moved away by this time.) These boys moved to college in January.

When, I was 18, after my other friends had all left, I became close friends with 3 other people. One girl, and two guys. One guy, Travis,  I was very close to. We did not have a romantic relationship. He told me because of my moral standards and his desire for a sexual relationship, he would not "date me". We hung out and talked on the phone everyday. I really liked him a lot. I was his friend to talk to and he always had another girl to have sex with. I am really glad I did not change my standards for this guy. I really did like him a lot.

The summer before I left for college, I hung out with these 3 friends most days. The other boy in the group decided he was gay and liked Travis. The girl and I did not like this. we both liked Travis too. Nothing happened. When the one guy's advances didn't get accepted, he left our group of friends and joined the army.Travis and the other girl started a sexual relationship when I left for college.

I went to Rick's college. One of my friends roommates and her friend  from home became physically close with another roommate. They were always sitting on each other's laps and sleeping in the same bed. They would say that they were just friends. It was so physical that everyone wondered. But mostly, at Ricks college, I had no experiences with homosexuality. I kept in touch with all of my friends from home, gay and straight through the old fashioned way of letter writing.

The fist summer after Ricks, I mainly hung out with Travis and the people I worked with-- there was one lesbian in the group. I had a fun summer and I dated a lot. Our high school group had broken up. Travis never let me go on a date a lone because he said he knew the guys intentions and wanted to protect me. I guess, I was naive. But it bothered me, and I would try to make Travis get a date to come along. He didn't always. I hung out with my old gay guy friends from time to time still too, but they were barely in town. Still, when we did get together, the one guy still made sexual advances. I was definitely friends with gay people but no matter what they said to me, I did not bend on my religious beliefs.

My second summer after I finished Rick's college was intense. My old best friend, the girl who moved near me when I was 15, was going to move in with me and work at the summer camp that I worked at. This didn't happen and the circumstances were odd. By this time, we were both 20.  I was deep into depression, on medication, and really not very healthy. This girl did not end up moving in. Her father had her brothers beat her up as she left for the bus. He held her down at home. Then he wrote a letter to my mother saying that this girl and I were lesbians and we should not move in together and couldn't she realize this? Now, being a parent I wonder if this girl's father knew something I did not.

At the same time, I had made friend, a girl, who was bisexual. She would always kiss my cheek, hug me, and grab for my hand. She always told me that she knew I would be ready for a gay relationship soon. My first gay friend, and the other 3 people in my original high school group (who were at this time all gay or bisexual) kept telling me again and again that I was at least bisexual and that I needed to embrace it. I started to question myself, my long held LDS beliefs and all. These "friends" were very pushy. My parents and Travis advised me to stop hanging out with them. I was not good at letting go of friends. But I agreed with my parents not to go to an overnight party with my first high school friends.That was a good call.

At the end of the summer, I decided to go to the University of Michigan. There, I met John. We were best friends immediately. But friends was all for several months. He was shorter than I am, so there was no pressure to date or anything.  One thing I loved about John was that he was a Latter Day Saint too, and he knew the gospel and followed it 100%. It was a relief to have a best friend that believed what I believed and encouraged me in those beliefs. Well, I married my bestest friend ever. I wrote or called all of my friends, and except for Travis, I never heard from them again. That made me sad. I knew they did not want me to marry and especially to marry a Mormon. I am so grateful I did. Because for the first time in my life, I was truly happy.

Part II soon

Anya's Birthday Party

This adorable just turned 4 year old wanted a birthday party.

So we invited a few little girls, decorated crowns and had tea party. All of the little girls LOVED the tea party and stayed eating their little food on their little dishes for nearly an hour.

With time running out, we quickly opened presents-- heaven for a 4 year old girl.

And finally we decorated cupcakes with sprinkles, coconut, gummy bears, and gummy cherries. A few kids thought carrots and oranges made great cupcake decorations! Cost of party: $25!!!! It was PERFECT!

Update on New NATIONAL Sexuality Education Standards

I had an opportunity to talk to a couple of people here in Utah that know more about this sort of thing than I do.  Here is what I learned.

1. I would have to say that Utah's school's are fairly safe. The reason is, the federal government, at this point in time, is not going to require schools to use this program. Also, I know that some people in the Utah state's legislature have been working on laws in Utah to counter a program exactly like this. If there comes a time, when lobbying needs to done in Utah. I will let you know how to contact your representatives to help laws get passed. People contacting representatives really and truly is a good way to make "your voice" heard. (If you don't feel like your vote counts, then send emails and make phone calls to the people who are elected.)
2. In other states, I would advise you to contact your state representatives and ask them to  write laws that would make this sort of program illegal in your state. In some states, laws to prevent this may already be in place.
3. This is most likely international policy coming from the United Nations. It is very similar to things found in Convention on the Rights of the Child. (the United States is the only country which has not signed this internationally recognized agreement.
4. One of the biggest problems with education today is federal funding to help states pay for the rising of costs of education. Why would this be a problem? This is a problem because then the federal government can, and does say, "We will give you XXmillion dollars for education, only if you put X program in your schools." That is how a program like the newly written sexuality education program is forced into states that would not wish to have such a program.
5. It is good to know there are many good people and many good groups that are working together to prevent programs like these being taught in our schools.

New NATIONAL Sexuality Education Standards

For the past four years the American Association of Health Education, the American School Health Association, the National Education Association – Health Information Network, the Society of State Leaders of Health and Physical Education, Advocates for Youth, Answer, and the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States have been working on and authoring a national sexuality program to create a national sexuality education standard to advance the implementation of sexuality education in US public schools.

http://www.futureofsexed.org/documents/josh-fose-standards-web.pdf
http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/brand-new-guidelines-pushing-radical-explicit-sex-ed-agenda-on-schools-nati#comment_listing

These new recommendations include:

For kindergarten to second grade: They suggest that, by the end of second grade, children should be using “proper names for body parts, including male and female anatomy,” be familiar with “different kinds of family structures,” and be able to “describe differences and similarities in how boys and girls may be expected to act, and provide examples of how friends, family, media, society and culture influence ways in which boys and girls think they should act.”

3rd to 5th grade: Introduction to sexual orientation would begin in the 3rd – 5th grade, and by 5th grade, students are expected to be able to define sexual orientation as “the romantic attraction of an individual to someone of the same gender or a different gender.”

6th to 8th grade: curriculum calls for an explanation of the correct way to use a condom and an analysis of “external influences that have an impact on one’s attitudes about gender, sexual orientation, and gender identity.”


9th to 12th grade: the curriculum prescribes that students should be able to “differentiate between biological sex, sexual orientation, and gender identity and expression.” and for students to be able to “compare and contrast the advantages and disadvantages of abstinence and other contraceptive methods, including condoms,” and “explain how to access local STD and HIV testing and treatment services.”

I think if enough parents and teachers know about it and act, we can stop this program from being implemented. Do you really want you kindergartener to be familiar with “different kinds of family structures,”? or your 6th grader to know how to use a condom? How many teachers want to teach that to their students? This is America. This can be stopped!

Today, I am going to work hard to find ways this can be countered. I will post more about what YOU can do. But first, please let as many people as you can know about it. The more the word gets out, the more likely it will be stopped.

Another reason as many parents as possible should know about this is because if it is implemented, parents need to know that they will have to address these issues with their own children. You will have to talk to you kindergartener about different families and truth. You will have to teach your elementary kids that "gender is an essential characteristic of premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose," and you will have to speak even more openly about sex with your middle and high school students.  So please, pass this on.

Glad to Realize

I have been so tired this pregnancy. More tired than I have ever been any of my previous eight pregnancies-- including the one that I was very anemic. I know I am not anemic because I take an iron pill. So I have been worried. What is wrong with me? I have never felt this exhausted even when I am pregnant.

Last night I realized something important. Every other pregnancy, I took a 1 1/2 to 2  hour nap everyday, and most nights I got between 7 1/2 and 8 hours of sleep. I was being pregnant on 9 to 10 hours of sleep per 24 hour period. This pregnancy, I have not been napping and I have been getting up a little earlier to clean the house. So I have been being pregnant on 6 1/2 to 7 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period and that is only if I am not up at night for any reason. I think I know why I am so exhausted, and relieved that it isn't some unknown medical problem.

I am going to have to find some way to remedy this. I am not sure how I am going to change things. But I am sure having a napping mom that feels well most of the time will be nicer for my family than having a mom that is always feeling exhausted and ill.