I have been wanting to post about this for days but my time has been short and computer competition has been heavy. I am glad to finally be sitting down and typing.
Since January, Ruth and Kate and all of the other people in the above picture have been learning about law and court and preparing for a mock trial competition with other 7th and 8th graders around the state.
Friday was their first competition. I dropped them off at the Salt Lake City courthouse, and they "preformed" a trial with other another group that has been preparing the same case. Our group lost to the other group by one point. But for both groups, the judges said that they preformed more like college students then junior high students. So they were rated highly, and may be competing more.
Their next trial is a week from Friday. I am going to drop my six younger kids off at my mother in laws house, so I can watch them during the next trial. If they are as good as the judges say, the will probably beat the next team.
I am so glad that we have found some good friends and good, fun classes in SLC. The girls always come away from their mock trial group, happy, and bubbily and with plenty to talk about.
Of course, it has been a lot of driving for me. Kid events always take a lot of my time, even when I don't participate. John keeps asking me when things are going to slow down. They won't. We have too many kids. Mock trial will end soon, but Ruth and Kate are preforming in the Twelfth Night, and their practicing will be picking up a ton. Then Soccer begins mid-April and Johnny and Adam will be doing that. So things will not slow down. But my kids are loving what they are doing. I am sure I can manage all of the driving for them, and with all of the kids being homeschooled, we are together plenty.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Friday, February 24, 2012
Things We Need to Know
I wrote a rather difficult article for United Families International. Both the research and the writing were difficult--not because it was hard to get the information, but because the information in and of itself was hard to swallow. UFI thought what I had written was important enough that instead of posting it to their blog which gets about 1,500 hits a day, they added an international section and sent it out to a much wider audience in their weekly alert email. Because I think the information is important for people to know about, I am going to post both my part and UFI"s part here. Please take the time to read through this.
Washington State has become the seventh U.S. state to legalize same-sex "marriage." This new law is considered an anti-discrimination law. Many of these laws, like Washington State's, will include a religious clause. These clauses are there to exempt churches and clergymen from being sued for discrimination if the church or clergy member, for example, refuses to perform a marriage of same sex couples. Many people believe that these clauses protect any religious-based conscientious objections to same-sex "marriages."
This simply is not the case. In response to questions about the New York State's religious protection clause, Alliance Defense Fund attorney Austin R. Nimocks stated:
It does not protect individuals. It does not protect private business owners. It does not protect, for example, a bed and breakfast owner who is using their own private personal property in the type of intimate setting that a bed and breakfast is. It does not protect licensed professionals. For example, it does not protect counselors. It also does not protect lawyers -- you may have a family law attorney who does not want to do a same-sex divorce because of their deeply held religious beliefs. It does not protect fertility doctors who may have a strict belief and only want to help [heterosexual] married couples because they believe a kid deserves both a mom and a dad.Individual citizens are offered no protection under religious clauses in nondiscrimination laws. An individual's religious beliefs are just not protected where same-sex "marriage" and civil unions are legal, and in other places with nondiscrimination laws.
In 2005 in Massachusetts, when David Parker, a parent of a kindergartner, strongly insisted on being notified when teachers were discussing homosexuality with his son, the school had him arrested and he spent the night in jail. In 2008, the federal court of appeals upheld a lower court's dismissal of the lawsuit filed by Parker to have children opted out of homosexual curriculum.
In 2007 in Georgia, a licensed counselor, Marcia Walden, referred a person seeking same-sex relationship counseling to a colleague. Rather than attempt to provide a service that would conflict with her religious beliefs, Walden acting in the best interest of the client referred her to another counselor. The client filed a complaint and Walden was dismissed from her job. Walden lost and the case has been appealed.
In 1999, in California, two doctors at the North Coast Women's Care Medical Group referred a lesbian patient to a doctor at an outside clinic for fertility treatments because of their religious beliefs. After a successful pregnancy preformed through the other doctor this patient sued the doctors at the North Coast Women's Care Medical Group for discrimination. In 2008, the doctors lost the case and it has been appealed.
In 2006 in New Mexico, Elane, a freelance photographer, refused to shoot a gay wedding between two women and was later sued by Vanessa Willock for discrimination against a person's sexual orientation. Elane lost the lawsuit and is now appealing.
These lawsuits are happening all over the United States. In most cases United States citizens, who believe their religious convictions should allow them to refuse services or protect their children, are losing.
At the international level, similar attacks on religious freedom, freedom of conscience, and freedom of expression continue.
In many instances, clergy members are not even protected. You probably remember the case of Swedish Pastor Ake Green and Canadian Pastor Stephen Boissoin. Although these men were eventually acquitted of their supposed crime of speaking out against homosexual behavior, thousands of dollars in legal fees and years in litigation have a dampening effect on free speech and upon religious freedoms. These cases clearly send the message "if you speak out or defend religious positions, there will be a heavy price to pay."
When Chai Feldblum, Pres. Obama's appointee to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, was asked about conflicts between Religious Freedom and so-called "sexual liberty," her response was indicative of how liberal courts around the world seem to view this issue:
"I'm having a hard time coming up with any case in which religious liberty should win."
As Marc Stern, general counsel for American Jewish Congress has stated: "When you have a change that is as dramatic as has happened in the last 10 to 15 years with regards to attitudes toward homosexuality, it's inevitable it's going to reverberate in dozens of places in the law that you're never going to be able to foresee."
Action Items:
1. Understand that "religious exemption clauses" that might be written into same-sex marriage laws or into other types of anti-discrimination laws relating to sexual orientation, offer little, if any, protection to individuals, businesses, or non-religious organizations. Don't be fooled.
2. Thoroughly examine any type of proposed legislation surrounding issues of domestic partnership, civil unions, same-sex "marriage" laws, hate crime law, employment law, or any type of "anti-discrimination" policy. Be advised that individual religious perspective is usually not protected.
3. Stand firm in defense of traditional marriage. Actively oppose legalization of same-sex "marriage" and other forms of alternative relationships.
4. Stand firm in defense of religious freedom and the opportunity for conscientious objection.
5. Get involved in the appointment and retention of members of the judiciary. Know the stance of those individuals who are being appointed or elected to judicial positions.
My Commentary on this topic:
- I looked at nearly 20 court cases where a business owner was sued because he or she did not want to service a homosexual couple usually for a hotel or wedding ceremony, and I could not find one instance where the business owner won the lawsuit. There are also a few court cases where parents are upset about what their children are being taught in school, and a few where doctors are being sued. It became very clear to me that religious freedom is no longer extended to any one at a personal level. That is-- business owners, parents, doctors, lawyers, counselors, even small bed and breakfast owners.
- In the United States clergy men and church buildings are still allotted freedom of religion. ie They may refuse to allow a gay marriage to take place in their church building, or to preform a gay marriage. Clergymen are still allowed to preach that homosexuality is a sin. People may attend what religious ceremonies they want. You can still say what you want in a pamphlet or online article, or teach your children what you want. But that is the extent of religious freedom currently in the United States. You may not refuse service to anyone because of your religious convictions.
- Internationally things are a lot worse. In Canada and in many European countries clergymen are losing the right to say homosexuality is a sin in writing or in public. Right now in Alberta, Canada there is a bill that would not allow parents of home schooled kids to tell their children that homosexuality is a sin. And it is about to pass. Gay marriage has been legal in Canada for less then 10 years.
- All of this got me quite discouraged. I am writing these things because I feel like this is a way that Heavenly Father wants me to serve His children, but after this research, I really felt like, "what is the point?" I was happier when I was ignorant on all of these matters. Then I read this lovely blog post by LeAnn. After a hard day of trying to help one of God's children as part of her inner city mission, she reminds us to, "Be of Good Cheer," and quotes President Monson, "I testify to you that our promised blessings are beyond measure. Though the storms clouds may gather, though the rains may pour down upon us, our knowledge of the gospel and our love of our Heavenly Father and of our Savior will comfort and sustain us and bring joy to our hearts as we walk uprightly and keep the commandments. There will be nothing in this world that can defeat us."
- I was also reminded of the last section of the Proclamation to the Family. It says, "We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society." So, I will try my best to "be of good cheer,' and I will continue to promote the family proclamation in public and government.
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Yesterday and Today
I am glad that all took place before midnight yesterday, but I had 4 pukers and 2 down with stomach aches. So today, I have one fussy baby that is mad that I will not give him milk, one toddler that spread the germ and is well and energetic, one teenager who is praying that she will not be sick, and five inbetween kids that are laying in front of the TV sipping sprite. What am I going to do today?
- Refill lots of sippy cups of sprite-- carefully stirring out the bubbles.
- Hold said grumpy baby while surfing the internet.
- vacuum the stairs, fireplace and under the stove.
- catch up on the laundry.
- wash the cupboards in the kitchen and even reorganize some.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
The 10 Commandments By Adam
John asked Adam what the 10 commandments were, and this is how he answered:
Honor your father and mother
Love your enemies
Go to church
And when you don't feel like it, go to church
Friday, February 17, 2012
United Families International Writer
Today, I am a writer over at the United Families International. I have more to say about gay marriage and religious freedom. I have to add here, that this is actually very scary. Yes, some people added an amendment at the last to protect churches, but individuals are becoming exempt from religious freedom at an alarming rate.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
When I was half way through the pregnancy with Joshua, I was really struggling. I wanted it to be my last pregnancy. 8 children with 4 boys and 4 girls seemed perfect. I wanted to be done. So I kept praying over and over and asking if this baby was the last. Could we be done having children? I never received an answer to that prayer. Later, when I calmed down and quit asking to be done, I got an answer. My answer was that there is one more boy that is suppose to come to my family.
Okay, I thought, just one more pregnancy. I was going to wait a while this time, though. I wanted to get into better physical shape so that a pregnancy at an older age would be easier. With just one more pregnancy, I thought it would be okay to wait until I was 37 to get pregnant.
But, I got pregnant as if we had used no birth control. So I thought, well, I guess that boy is coming sooner. No biggy. I will get into shape after this one, because then I will be done having children. My family is going to finally be complete.
Friday, I found out that I am having a girl. Funny, but the room got silent when the doctor said that. I smiled and said, "well, the pattern is not broken." I was wondering what had I gotten wrong.
John was the last in our household to find out about the baby, and he was ecstatic! John wanted a girl and was sad that we weren't going to have another daughter. I casually mentioned the boy thing. John shrugged it off.
Saturday night, we went to the Temple. While in the temple, I prayed earnestly to know what the Lord would want me to do. Occasionally, I do this. I wasn't even thinking about having more children. But, that was the answer I received. I knew I was not wrong about there being another boy.
John and I went to dinner afterwards. When I felt brave enough, I told him that I knew I was not wrong about the boy. I know there is another boy that is suppose to come to our family, and as much as I hate it, I know that means another pregnancy after this one. John mentioned excitedly, that he had received the same revelation, but was afraid to tell me.
So like Nephi, "I will go and do the things which the Lord has commanded..." This little girl is not my last child. This pregnancy is not my last pregnancy. I may be unhappy at the thought of another pregnancy, and I am sure there are lots of people out there that already disapprove of how many children I already have. But none of that matters. Heavenly Father knows better than I do. So that is who I will follow.
Okay, I thought, just one more pregnancy. I was going to wait a while this time, though. I wanted to get into better physical shape so that a pregnancy at an older age would be easier. With just one more pregnancy, I thought it would be okay to wait until I was 37 to get pregnant.
But, I got pregnant as if we had used no birth control. So I thought, well, I guess that boy is coming sooner. No biggy. I will get into shape after this one, because then I will be done having children. My family is going to finally be complete.
Friday, I found out that I am having a girl. Funny, but the room got silent when the doctor said that. I smiled and said, "well, the pattern is not broken." I was wondering what had I gotten wrong.
John was the last in our household to find out about the baby, and he was ecstatic! John wanted a girl and was sad that we weren't going to have another daughter. I casually mentioned the boy thing. John shrugged it off.
Saturday night, we went to the Temple. While in the temple, I prayed earnestly to know what the Lord would want me to do. Occasionally, I do this. I wasn't even thinking about having more children. But, that was the answer I received. I knew I was not wrong about there being another boy.
John and I went to dinner afterwards. When I felt brave enough, I told him that I knew I was not wrong about the boy. I know there is another boy that is suppose to come to our family, and as much as I hate it, I know that means another pregnancy after this one. John mentioned excitedly, that he had received the same revelation, but was afraid to tell me.
So like Nephi, "I will go and do the things which the Lord has commanded..." This little girl is not my last child. This pregnancy is not my last pregnancy. I may be unhappy at the thought of another pregnancy, and I am sure there are lots of people out there that already disapprove of how many children I already have. But none of that matters. Heavenly Father knows better than I do. So that is who I will follow.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Wow!!!
So today when I got home from church, Adam was complaining of an earache. I immediately called the kids urgent care clinic located the floor below our pediatrician. Usually, I can get an appointment within a half hour. The first appointment was 2 1/2 hours later. I took it. I was pretty hungry and wanted to get lunch before I rushed out to the doctors anyway, but I knew that meant they were busy.
In the meantime, Joseph came down and laid down in front of the fire. I looked at his glassed over eye look and knew he had a fever again and for the 7th day. 7 days with a fever over 102 seems suspicious, even though I couldn't pin down anything particularly wrong. So I thought, "I think I will need to take him to the doctors anyway. I might as well bring him now."
When I got to the doctors, they were not too happy about me bringing Joseph along too. They already had had 20 kids in the 2 1/2 hours since they opened. So I said, no biggy. I did not want to wait another hour plus for Joseph as a walk in. I said I could take him to his own doctor another day. The receptionist was more concerned over the 7 day high fever than I was, and checked with the doctor. Because the doctor was so behind already, he said, my wait would be long either way, so they took Joseph too.
We waited about an hour and a quarter with Joseph running around and gabbing up a storm the whole time. Really, minus the fever, he has not seemed very ill.
So Adam got checked first and has an ear infection, just like we thought. Then I told the doctor why we were there with Joseph. He immediately checked his lungs, and said, "I thought so. It sounds all bubbley." Joseph has pneumonia! Then he mentioned how Joseph wasn't acting very sick, though. (I'm sure glad I brought him!!!!)
With 8 children, this is our first case of pneumonia. Really, I am not used to having sick kids. Occasionally, we have a kid with a sinus infection. Johnny went through a period where he got strep about every six months for two years, but that is about all. I never even considered pneumonia as a possibility. It didn't even cross my mind.
Update: at about 8:30 Joshua had a fever of 101, and was tugging on his ear. John took him to kidscare and Josh has an ear infection too.
In the meantime, Joseph came down and laid down in front of the fire. I looked at his glassed over eye look and knew he had a fever again and for the 7th day. 7 days with a fever over 102 seems suspicious, even though I couldn't pin down anything particularly wrong. So I thought, "I think I will need to take him to the doctors anyway. I might as well bring him now."
When I got to the doctors, they were not too happy about me bringing Joseph along too. They already had had 20 kids in the 2 1/2 hours since they opened. So I said, no biggy. I did not want to wait another hour plus for Joseph as a walk in. I said I could take him to his own doctor another day. The receptionist was more concerned over the 7 day high fever than I was, and checked with the doctor. Because the doctor was so behind already, he said, my wait would be long either way, so they took Joseph too.
We waited about an hour and a quarter with Joseph running around and gabbing up a storm the whole time. Really, minus the fever, he has not seemed very ill.
So Adam got checked first and has an ear infection, just like we thought. Then I told the doctor why we were there with Joseph. He immediately checked his lungs, and said, "I thought so. It sounds all bubbley." Joseph has pneumonia! Then he mentioned how Joseph wasn't acting very sick, though. (I'm sure glad I brought him!!!!)
With 8 children, this is our first case of pneumonia. Really, I am not used to having sick kids. Occasionally, we have a kid with a sinus infection. Johnny went through a period where he got strep about every six months for two years, but that is about all. I never even considered pneumonia as a possibility. It didn't even cross my mind.
Update: at about 8:30 Joshua had a fever of 101, and was tugging on his ear. John took him to kidscare and Josh has an ear infection too.
"Daddy Dressed Me"
Don't laugh! Daddy dressed me.
Friday, February 10, 2012
Mayhem After Midnight
Monday night, Joseph had croup and a high fever. Tuesday night, Joseph had a little croup and a much higher fever. We were losing sleep. Wednesday night, Adam had a bad case of croup. John stayed up most of the night with him making sure he could breath, and keeping him in cool air. Thursday night was nightmare night.
I went to bed at 12:30pm. Adam had already begun coughing, but not terribly. By 2:30am, Adam's croup was really bad. John got him out into the cold night air to help him breath. That seemed to panic Adam. By 3am, we were facing the worst croup case we have ever experienced. Adam was not breaking between coughs, and barely said, "I can't breath." The cool night air was not helping.
By this time, I was wide awake and helping John. We put Adam into a steaming shower. The hot shower helped him relax and the steamy air helped him to breath better. Since, we knew we would run out of hot water, we made a cup of bowling water for Adam to sip and breathe in the steam.
We put Adam on the couch with a pile of blankets on him, and gave him the mug of hot water, while we started trying to get the internet working so he could watch a movie ( to help him relax more). We couldn't get the internet working. John called comcast, and the system was down for maintenance. So we looked through our videos.
Thinking, I would get back to bed soon, I refilled Adam's mug, and put a little lemon juice and sugar in it while John fussed around with getting a movie on. I sat down next to Adam, and the boiling water in his mug sloshed out. Adam freaked out and dumped most of the entire cup down his front.
Adam jumped up and ripped his clothes off. His left side down to his hip and all around his left arm was very burnt. We tried to get him into a cool bath. He hopped in and out screaming with pain, or freezing cold and feverish. With so much of his body burned, we knew we needed to take him to the emergency room. By this time, it was 4am. We actually do not know what hospital is best for our insurance and even where most of the hospitals are around us.
I needed to call emergency rooms, but our internet was down and I had no way to get the emergency rooms phone numbers. John mentioned that while it was only 6am in Maine, my parents might be awake. They were not.
My mom got me the phone number to the hospital where I had Joshua. (The only one we knew the location of.) They actually let us talk to a nurse. They mentioned that they might have to transfer Adam to Primary Children's hospital. We thought we should just go there instead. I recalled my mom, and it took a while to get the correct phone number for Primary Children's. I needed to call them for directions.
Primary Children's Hospital doesn't answer their phone. We were really pretty frustrated. Adam was still jumping in and out of the tub and crying. We thought we better just get him to a doctor, so we woke up Ruth and Kate to tell them what was happening, and took Adam to the only hospital we knew the location of.
Adam's burns were all first and second degree, so they were able to treat him there. I also requested that he get treated for croup. It was all unpleasant. We definitely felt like the nurse seemed to think we burned our son at 4 am on purpose. But Adam was okay. And I was firm about getting him treated for croup for the next few days.
We got home just before 7am, and all went to bed. The whole night was one awful event after another. If I could go back in time, I would have taken Adam to the doctors the day before. As it is, I am grateful that Adam's burns are not serious and will not scar, Adam has been treated for croup for the next 48 hours, and because we had to go to the smaller hospital, he was seen right away and we were able to get home in time to sleep 1.5 hours before anyone else woke up.
I went to bed at 12:30pm. Adam had already begun coughing, but not terribly. By 2:30am, Adam's croup was really bad. John got him out into the cold night air to help him breath. That seemed to panic Adam. By 3am, we were facing the worst croup case we have ever experienced. Adam was not breaking between coughs, and barely said, "I can't breath." The cool night air was not helping.
By this time, I was wide awake and helping John. We put Adam into a steaming shower. The hot shower helped him relax and the steamy air helped him to breath better. Since, we knew we would run out of hot water, we made a cup of bowling water for Adam to sip and breathe in the steam.
We put Adam on the couch with a pile of blankets on him, and gave him the mug of hot water, while we started trying to get the internet working so he could watch a movie ( to help him relax more). We couldn't get the internet working. John called comcast, and the system was down for maintenance. So we looked through our videos.
Thinking, I would get back to bed soon, I refilled Adam's mug, and put a little lemon juice and sugar in it while John fussed around with getting a movie on. I sat down next to Adam, and the boiling water in his mug sloshed out. Adam freaked out and dumped most of the entire cup down his front.
Adam jumped up and ripped his clothes off. His left side down to his hip and all around his left arm was very burnt. We tried to get him into a cool bath. He hopped in and out screaming with pain, or freezing cold and feverish. With so much of his body burned, we knew we needed to take him to the emergency room. By this time, it was 4am. We actually do not know what hospital is best for our insurance and even where most of the hospitals are around us.
I needed to call emergency rooms, but our internet was down and I had no way to get the emergency rooms phone numbers. John mentioned that while it was only 6am in Maine, my parents might be awake. They were not.
My mom got me the phone number to the hospital where I had Joshua. (The only one we knew the location of.) They actually let us talk to a nurse. They mentioned that they might have to transfer Adam to Primary Children's hospital. We thought we should just go there instead. I recalled my mom, and it took a while to get the correct phone number for Primary Children's. I needed to call them for directions.
Primary Children's Hospital doesn't answer their phone. We were really pretty frustrated. Adam was still jumping in and out of the tub and crying. We thought we better just get him to a doctor, so we woke up Ruth and Kate to tell them what was happening, and took Adam to the only hospital we knew the location of.
Adam's burns were all first and second degree, so they were able to treat him there. I also requested that he get treated for croup. It was all unpleasant. We definitely felt like the nurse seemed to think we burned our son at 4 am on purpose. But Adam was okay. And I was firm about getting him treated for croup for the next few days.
We got home just before 7am, and all went to bed. The whole night was one awful event after another. If I could go back in time, I would have taken Adam to the doctors the day before. As it is, I am grateful that Adam's burns are not serious and will not scar, Adam has been treated for croup for the next 48 hours, and because we had to go to the smaller hospital, he was seen right away and we were able to get home in time to sleep 1.5 hours before anyone else woke up.
Thursday, February 9, 2012
Update on HB 363
HB 363 did pass out of committee, but it was so amended that it is not the same law that was presented and will not have the same impact, in my opinion.
It was definitely an interesting day at the capitol. Ruth and Kate came and got to hear all of the arguments for and against abstinence only education. They left feeling rather emotional and unhappy with a couple of other teenagers complaining they "needed" more sex ed. Ruth and Kate never liked their maturation classes.
A couple arguments I liked were: when the presenter of the law said, "What do we need sex ed for anyway? What would you rather have your 5th and 6th graders doing? Spending a half hour a day reading, or a half hour a day learning about sex?"
My second favorite argument was from a lawyer who said, "I am a lawyer, and I have 10 children. I fought with the principal to get my children out of these classes, and I think all of my children learned plenty about sex because I already have 40 grandchildren." Everyone laughed at that one.
I am surprised at how much I am enjoying politics. Six years ago I felt guilty because I never did anything to help in family law and it just seemed laws were changing for the worse at such a fast pace. Still, I always thought, later, I am busy with too many children. I cannot do this. My own family is too important. Honestly, I didn't want to get involved. Now I am even more busy with my family. I think I have slowly had a change of heart. I can do this, even though it is hard.
It was definitely an interesting day at the capitol. Ruth and Kate came and got to hear all of the arguments for and against abstinence only education. They left feeling rather emotional and unhappy with a couple of other teenagers complaining they "needed" more sex ed. Ruth and Kate never liked their maturation classes.
A couple arguments I liked were: when the presenter of the law said, "What do we need sex ed for anyway? What would you rather have your 5th and 6th graders doing? Spending a half hour a day reading, or a half hour a day learning about sex?"
My second favorite argument was from a lawyer who said, "I am a lawyer, and I have 10 children. I fought with the principal to get my children out of these classes, and I think all of my children learned plenty about sex because I already have 40 grandchildren." Everyone laughed at that one.
I am surprised at how much I am enjoying politics. Six years ago I felt guilty because I never did anything to help in family law and it just seemed laws were changing for the worse at such a fast pace. Still, I always thought, later, I am busy with too many children. I cannot do this. My own family is too important. Honestly, I didn't want to get involved. Now I am even more busy with my family. I think I have slowly had a change of heart. I can do this, even though it is hard.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Time to Act: Utahns
Do you remember the New National Sexuality Standards?
"For the past four years the American Association of Health Education, the American School Health Association, the National Education Association – Health Information Network, the Society of State Leaders of Health and Physical Education, Advocates for Youth, Answer, and the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States have been working on and authoring a national sexuality program to create a national sexuality education standard to advance the implementation of sexuality education in US public schools."
Well, Utahns, now is the time to act. I received this From Laura Bunker, President of United Families Utah
Rep. Francis D. Gibson, Chair fgibson@le.utah.gov
Rep. Gregory H. Hughes greghughes@le.utah.gov
Rep. Rebecca D. Lockhart blockhart@le.utah.gov
Rep. John G. Mathis jmathis@le.utah.gov
Rep. Kay L. McIff kaymciff@le.utah.gov
Rep. Merlynn T. Newbold mnewbold@le.utah.gov
Rep. Marie H. Poulson mariepoulson@le.utah.gov
Rep. Kraig Powell kraigpowell@le.utah.gov
Rep. Kenneth W. Sumsion ksumsion@le.utah.gov
Rep. Carol Spackman Moss csmoss@le.utah.gov
Rep. Patrice M. Arent parent@le.utah.gov
Rep. LaVar Christensen lavarchristensen@le.utah.gov
Rep. Rebecca P. Edwards beckyedwards@le.utah.gov
Rep. Steve Eliason seliason@le.utah.gov
This is the best way to stop the National Sexuality Standards from entering our schools. So please, just take a few minutes to email the house members on this committee.
Thanks,
Diane
"For the past four years the American Association of Health Education, the American School Health Association, the National Education Association – Health Information Network, the Society of State Leaders of Health and Physical Education, Advocates for Youth, Answer, and the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States have been working on and authoring a national sexuality program to create a national sexuality education standard to advance the implementation of sexuality education in US public schools."
Well, Utahns, now is the time to act. I received this From Laura Bunker, President of United Families Utah
"HB
363 Health Education Amendments needs your support right away. We are
expecting a great deal of opposition on this one, but you can help. Please
contact the members of the House Education Committee below before 3:30
p.m. Thursday and respectfully urge them to support this important bill
for Utah's students. We also need your presence in the House Education
Committee meeting Thursday Feb 9 at 4:00 p.m. in room 445 of the
Capitol. Better yet, bring your teenagers. This bill is for them."
Rep. Francis D. Gibson, Chair fgibson@le.utah.gov
Rep. Gregory H. Hughes greghughes@le.utah.gov
Rep. Rebecca D. Lockhart blockhart@le.utah.gov
Rep. John G. Mathis jmathis@le.utah.gov
Rep. Kay L. McIff kaymciff@le.utah.gov
Rep. Merlynn T. Newbold mnewbold@le.utah.gov
Rep. Marie H. Poulson mariepoulson@le.utah.gov
Rep. Kraig Powell kraigpowell@le.utah.gov
Rep. Kenneth W. Sumsion ksumsion@le.utah.gov
Rep. Carol Spackman Moss csmoss@le.utah.gov
Rep. Patrice M. Arent parent@le.utah.gov
Rep. LaVar Christensen lavarchristensen@le.utah.gov
Rep. Rebecca P. Edwards beckyedwards@le.utah.gov
Rep. Steve Eliason seliason@le.utah.gov
This is the best way to stop the National Sexuality Standards from entering our schools. So please, just take a few minutes to email the house members on this committee.
Thanks,
Diane
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
The Big Question for Traditional Marriage
Tuesday, February 7, 2012 the 9th cirtcuit court of appeals ruled California’s ban on gay marriage unconstitutional.
In the 2-1 ruling, the Ninth U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in San Francisco said Proposition 8 took rights away from a vulnerable minority without benefiting parents, children or the marital institution.
Judge Stephen Roy Reinhardt declared, that Proposition 8 "serves no purpose, and has no effect, other than to lessen the status and human dignity of gays and lesbians in California, and to officially reclassify their relationships and families as inferior to those of opposite-sex couples… The Constitution simply does not allow for laws of this sort."
This ruling applies to California only. Instead of declaring gay marriage a federal right, the judges took a different approach, ruling that the effect of amending the state constitution to ban same-sex marriage after same-sex couples had already enjoyed that right is unequal treatment and in violation of the 14th amendment’s equal protection clause.
The three judge panel of the 9th circuit court of appeals gave supporters of proposition 8, time to appeal the ruling before California could resume same sex marriages.
Andy Pugno, lawyer for the Prop. 8 campaign committee stated, “We will immediately appeal this misguided decision that disregards the will of more than 7 million Californians who voted to restore marriage as the unique union of only a man and a woman.”
As soon as the appeal is made, Proposition 8 will be headed for the Supreme Court of the United States. The Supreme Court receives approximately 10,000 cases per year and hears around 80 of these cases.
The Big
Question for supporters of traditional marriage has now become:
What is it better
for traditional marriage?
One, the Supreme
Court does not grant hearing to the Proposition 8 trial, Judge Reinhardt’s decision
is final and only applies to California, or
Two, the Supreme Court grants Proposition 8
hearing and the constitutionality of same sex marriage is decided by 9 people?
What do you think?
The official statement from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints can be found here.
What do you think?
The official statement from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints can be found here.
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Thoughts on Changing Behavior
Before I had children, I thought that I was doing pretty well on the path to perfection. For instance, I never lost my temper with anyone. I really felt like I loved everyone and had general goodwill towards my fellowmen.
Then Ruth turned two. While I was checking out our books, Ruth followed another family out of the public library onto one of the busier roads in Ann Arbor, MI. I was terrified and furious! On the way home in the car, I found myself yelling. (I hadn't done that since I was quite a bit younger.) I realized that I was not immuned to anger like I thought I was.
At that point in time, changing my behavior became a real issue. I yelled. I got angry. I felt like I had slipped down quite a bit on the path. At the same point in time. Changing the behavior of my children became a consistent issue as well. Parenthood had given me something new to work out.
So all these 12-ish years later, I still have to work (mostly on a daily basis) on my temper. Kids just do that to you. And I still have to work (mostly on a daily basis) on my children's behavior. Kids just do that to you too.
I wanted to list a few things, that I have found that work, and a few things that do not.
Then Ruth turned two. While I was checking out our books, Ruth followed another family out of the public library onto one of the busier roads in Ann Arbor, MI. I was terrified and furious! On the way home in the car, I found myself yelling. (I hadn't done that since I was quite a bit younger.) I realized that I was not immuned to anger like I thought I was.
At that point in time, changing my behavior became a real issue. I yelled. I got angry. I felt like I had slipped down quite a bit on the path. At the same point in time. Changing the behavior of my children became a consistent issue as well. Parenthood had given me something new to work out.
So all these 12-ish years later, I still have to work (mostly on a daily basis) on my temper. Kids just do that to you. And I still have to work (mostly on a daily basis) on my children's behavior. Kids just do that to you too.
I wanted to list a few things, that I have found that work, and a few things that do not.
- Daily rewards for good behavior. Sounds good. Psychologists even support this idea. I have found that it hardly ever works for any long term change. We can make this work well for potty training, but that is about it. Why? Because, myself or my kids work for the reward. When the reward is gone, we quit and we are back to where we started. We had this happen a few years back. If our kids did everything they were suppose to for family prayer, we gave them a piece of candy. After three months of perfect prayer behavior, we stopped giving candy. The kids immediately stopped behaving for family prayer. It just plain old doesn't work.
- One big reward at the end of a long period of changed behavior. This works. It seems to give one enough time to really change a bad habit or get into a good habit. For example, one summer we all worked on one habit change for a trip to an amusement park. This worked, and better habits were formed.Right now, Rachel cannot spend her Christmas money until she doesn't pinch for 30 days. At this point (21 days of no pinching) I would have to say a habit has been changed. Rachel no longer seems to think, "You are bugging me, I must pinch you."
- Teaching doctrine rather than behavior. Teaching the gospel, daily personal and family scripture reading work wonders! Once when Ruth was acting rather angry about some of our house rules. I said nothing about her behavior. I just gave her a few conference talks to read. She read them, and that was the end of the anger. For me, daily scripture reading means the difference between a calm voice and a loud voice.
- Nagging over a long period of time. It doesn't work. One just feels picked on. In fact, I think this can even produce the opposite affect that you want it to. But it sure is easy to do.
- Time outs. This works well for little kids, especially if you do it consistently for the same thing over a long period. I do this for temper tantrums, and I have had great success for everyone of my kids. It works terribly for older kids. Time out is a reward for anyone about 9 and older. Never send a teenager to their room.
- Chores. This seems to really help with long term behavior change. When I have a teenager that is throwing 2 year old fits all over again, making them work, works wonders. It helps me too. If I am frustrated or angry, a lot of house work calms me down and helps me to be sane. This also works well for the 3 or 4 year throwing a fit, but is harder for a parent to follow through.
- Talking about behavior. For bad habits, this works about as well as nagging. Pointing out behaviors that makes one happy versus behaviors that makes one miserable before a bad habit is formed seems to help. I will know more about that as my children grow older.
Saturday, February 4, 2012
I Bet You Are Glad This Wasn't You
We decided that we would take one child out on a date per paycheck. This week was Rachel's turn. John took her out to Denny's for a kids meal. Rachel sat across from John in a booth. She started to get wiggley. Then she kind of sniffed around in her seat. Then Rachel moved over into the seat next to John. She stood up, leaned over the top of the booth above the person in the other booth, turned around, and in a very normal voice declared, "Oh, that is what I smell."
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Guest Writer For United Families International
I am a writer over at The United Families International today. So please go here, and check out what I have to say about religious Freedom.
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